Words to endure

I’m writing this because every damn person around me is either getting married, already married, or planning to get married. And at some point, I probably will too. But watching all of this up close has been… something. There are patterns and conversations that are honestly cracking me up sometimes, making me scratch my head at other times, and occasionally making me want to pull my hair out in sheer frustration. One thing that stands out immediately is how uncomfortable people get when women speak. The moment a woman expresses what she wants, what she expects, or what she is not okay with, the reaction is almost predictable. She is called too practical, too calculative, someone who is “turning marriage into a business.” As if wanting clarity and fairness somehow cancels out love. This framing is not accidental. It actively delegitimises the idea of fairness by suggesting that love must be silent, selfless, and unquestioning. It assumes that one person’s sacrifice is natural, while the...